I just replied to a thread on a parenting forum about whether or not I find it hard having 4 children. I didnt want to blabber on in the thread too much so thought I'd just right about it here.
When Savannah was born I had a 0m, 12 month, 3.5y and 4.5 yr olds and yep for the first 6 months it was VERY hard. The sleepless nights, isobella wasnt walking yet, Zach was still behind developmentally and not toilet trained so I had 3 in fulltime nappies. Getting to kinder on time almost never happened we were lucky to arrive 10:30-11am most of the time.
When Sav started sleeping through and isobella started walking things did get a bit easier. By the time Savannah was 6 months and bella was confidently walking and starting to gain some independance thimngs got a lot easier.
Alex started school when Savannah was 7 months and isobella was 19 months, this was hard because both girls were well established in there napping routines which both coincided with school pickup time! It was a nightmare trying to get to alexs class with 2 cranky babies and often a cranky 4 yr old Zach who had also had his nap interrupted. By mid year when the weather went horrid I decided I was going to do something I had never thouht I would, I left the 3 kids in the car strapped in there carseats and as soon as the bell went I ran to alexs class and grabbed him and then back to the car. I was gojne for about 5 minutes each time and could see the car the whole time but I still felt like the worlds worst mother for doing it. I couldnt keep getting them out and dragging them through the rain though in the horrid moods they were in.
At one stage nearing the time I started leaving them in the car for those few minutes I was trying to cross the road with savannah in the pram, isobella holding my hand on one side and zach holding the pram on the other when in the middle of the road isobella dropped to the floor and started having a tantrum... with a car coming i had no choice but to grab her arm and basically drag her off the road one handed and pushing the pram with the other and as soon as i grbbed her I felt her arm pop out of the socket... it was already lose as it had happened twice and I knew when i grabbed her it would happen but there wasnt much choice in the matter. Another mum saw what hd happened and offered to mind zach and sav while I ran in and got alex and then we rushed off to the doctors to get her arm put back in!! It was a HORRIBLE experience and also made the decision to leave them in the car easier!
So after this stage had passed it all started to get easier. The boys began to get more independant and so did the girls.
Now sav is 2, bella is 3, Zach is 5 and alex is 6 and it is quite easy. They can all help out.. the elder 3 can dress themselves, the boys can get there own breakfast and drinks for themselves. They can all pack up after themselves. The boys put there own washing away and help put there sisters away. Zach helps with vaccuuming. It just runs a lot more smoothly!
Yes it can be chaotic but I dont think its hard. Some days I'd say its terribly hard but then I think I had more of 'those days' when Ionly had one child!
So despite my ramblings on how hard it was the fisrt 6 months... right now its not too hard and I absolutely love it, wouldnt change it for anytihng in the world and cant wait to have another bubba~!
I dont doubt over the coming years I'm going to have challenges to face and times I think its all too hard but at the end of the day its worth it! :)